Interventions can be heavy and often difficult for all parties involved.
Addiction evokes a lot of emotions out of the parties included and without proper guidance, an intervention can quickly become hostile. So how do you do it?
How do you encourage someone you love and care about to seek help for their addiction?
These are tricky waters to navigate but we've put together a list of 8 tips to hosting an addiction intervention. If you're thinking about hosting an intervention, keep reading.
Find a Specialist
Someone who orchestrates interventions is called an intervention specialist.
These are professionals who have dedicated their lives to facilitating meetings with concerned individuals who are worried about someone struggling with an addiction. If you're planning on hosting an intervention, reach out to local resources that can provide the names of some intervention specialists.
You'll meet with the chosen specialist and explain the situation and nature of the matter. During this meeting, you should also ask the specialist if they have any recommendations for recovery facilities.
A successful intervention results in a person accepting that they need help and going to a recovery facility. Begin to search for and find the most well-suited facility. Once you've decided on a facility, begin making arrangements for your loved one to make the transition to the facility.
Once that has happened, it's the time to introduce your specialist to your intervention team.
Organize A Team
When it comes to organizing an intervention, it's important that you take time to plan ahead.
It has been shown that interventions are better received when the person struggling with an addiction is surrounded by several people. Trying to host a one-on-one intervention can escalate quickly and can make the person feel like they're being personally attacked by the person sitting in front of them.
Be strategic in who you ask to be a part of the intervention as this is sensitive and heavy material. This should be people who are considered the inner circle of the person with an addiction, family and loved ones for example.
Before the intervention takes place, get together with your chosen team and intervention specialist to discuss the format of the meeting. Explain the angle at which you'll approach the person and how it'll be executed.
Everyone on the team should leave this first meeting on the same page and understand what is going to happen during the intervention and what part they play.
Compassion Is Key
Living with an addicted person in your life can be heavy and at times feel like there's no hope. Interventions are usually called into play when loved ones and family members feel that their last hope is to seek professional help.
In situations like these, it's crucial to understand that this is a confrontation. You will be confronting the person that you love and emotions will be heightened. Try to hear them out and understand their point of view with compassion.
Don't think of the intervention like an attack on your loved one's character. Try to go into the situation with a receiving heart and the ability to understand past your own logic.
Communication Is the Second Key
Now step outside of the situation for a second.
When you're being confronted, how do you like to be spoken to? Take that mentality into your intervention. Talk to them in a way that communicates that their feelings are valid and that you're there for them.
A good rule of thumb in any confrontation is to use "I" language instead of "you" language. Don't barge into an intervention screaming at them that they are the problem. This would make anyone shut down almost immediately and feel defensive.
Try speaking in phrases like "when this happens I feel this way". That way it helps them understand that their addiction affects others around them and that the intervention isn't an ambush.
It is easy for people who are included in an intervention to immediately resort to denial. If they deny their addiction, it's easier to justify continuing the harmful behaviors.
When you're a part of an intervention and have to face the afflicted individual, be sure to mention specific behaviors you've noticed firsthand. When people who struggle with addiction are shown that their behavior is obvious, blatant and destructive to others, they'll have more of a concrete reason to hear you out.
Have they been missing work, been arrested, skipped family functions, had episodes of impaired driving or made less of a contribution at home?
Explain this to the person struggling with addiction and be as specific as possible.
Explain the Dangers
While some people might be promoted to begin the road to recovery based on financial and emotional motives, others could be prompted by potential health issues.
Depending on what type of addiction the person is facing, the intervention specialist can compile a specific list of health dangers associated. The internet is also another valuable tool that can be utilized in explaining the health concerns of an addiction.
Make sure that these websites you're referencing are credible sources, like government websites.
Talk about Treatment Options
Once you've made it through these other steps during an intervention, it's time to address their treatment options.
If you've been able to accurately convey your team's concern for the person struggling with addiction, they'll recognize and accept the fact that they need professional help.
This is the time when you can now explain to the facility that you recommend sending your loved one to. Provide them with as much information as possible. Explain the facility's program, how long it is and what they should expect from it.
Once you've explained the chosen program, it's time to take your loved one to the recovery facility.
Host An Addiction Intervention
There you have it! 8 tips and tricks on how to host a successful addiction intervention. These matters can be heavy and incredibly sensitive for every party involved.
Make sure that you don't rush the process of planning for an addiction intervention. This is a lengthy process that should be organized in as much time as possible, thus guaranteeing that all of your team is on the same page and your information is up-to-date.
Take these tips and apply them to your planning process. If you're planning an intervention in Arizona, Colorado, New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Texas or Utah, feel free to reach out to us. We'd love to assist you in this process.